Ok, so I messed up

Really! How dare you mess up! Mistakes are just not acceptable! Nah, just kidding, of course they are acceptable. They have to be because everyone does it from time to time. But have you ever had a boss or someone in authority say something like that? Sure you have. It may have even been your parents or siblings.

Mistakes are OK but in saying that, I don't mean you should welcome mistakes. It is just that mistakes do happen. Life gave you a test and you did not pass. I will not say you failed, I just say that you did not pass. You have not yet failed for a good reason. Life will keep the test in front of you or it will present it again and give you the opportunity to pass the test the next time.

I knew a person quite long time ago who said that he has never made a serious mistake in his life. Really! I mean really really! If he was not lying through his teeth then that person was stagnant. He wasn't going anywhere and had learned nothing of value in his life.  That person was me.

Serious mistakes cause you to take serious account of WTF just happened. This is great. Stepping out of a situation and looking in at all the aspects of what just happened is the best thing you can do. If it was something urgent like a car accident or suchlike then for sure, you may need to action something very quickly. You are more likely to react than respond and that is understandable. Time may be of the essence. More so if there was an injury.

But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Yes, you may well have to pay a price for a serious mistake. Society has rules, jobs have rules, parents have rules and the list goes on, but don't let a big mistake put you back.

Think if you were a boxer in the ring. A good hit may stagger you or make you fall but if you get back up in time you are still there for a comeback. Life will give you that test again without any doubt UNLESS you have learned that which you need to know on the first incident. When you change, life's tests will change.

You absolutely must figure out what went wrong and correct the object or yourself (yes you, not any other people involved). The only person you are allowed to have control of is you. Not only that but you also have full control over you. The only person you can correct is you. You neither have the ability or the power to change someone else because you want to or feel THEY need to change. The only one who can change the other person is the other person. They also need to pass the test, and if they don't, guess what happens next?

It is permissible to get it wrong until you get it right. Walking, talking, eating - as babies we all struggled miserably here until we got it right. The older you become, the less permissible mistakes become.

Know this. Maturity has absolutely nothing to do with age, it has everything to do with experience. It has everything to do with "passing the tests". Mature people make less mistakes only because of the tests they have passed.

Remember: The latest blog is at the top. To get some historical background, scroll down a bit. Feel free to comment.